Tuesday, June 13, 2017

Keeping Your Counselor To Do List Organized

If you have ever walked into my office, you would have most likely seen a mountain of post it notes.  I mean they were everywhere, with little reminders of what I need to accomplish, call, or see that day.

Those days are over.  O.V.E.R.

Here's my desk today.  

Notice the brown?  It's a desk. . .  But, in that picture is the key to being organized.

I made these weekly planner To Do lists to keep on my desk.  They have a highlight section that I can jot my notes down in and keep all my reminders handy.  I found a tutorial for making my own notepad. (I haven't tried it yet, but I am excited to do so.  It looks pretty easy)  Instead of lugging my planner/binder to every team meeting or classroom I visit, I'm going to take a planner sheet.  It will be helpful to jot down the periods end if I'm going in a class for a lesson, and it also gives me space to take a note if a student asks me.  Plus it's bigger than a post it note, so it will be a little harder to lose!

Here is a better view:

I think the biggest key to organizing your To Do list is to visit it frequently.  Cross off those things that are done.  You feel a real sense of accomplishment when you can mark something complete and you will be more likely to continue on with the next task.

The next key is to prioritize.  What is the single most important thing you have to do that day?  I know you are probably thinking all of it, but there is always something bigger than the rest.  Number your list.  Rewrite it in order if you have to, but get it prioritized.

Another way to organize your To Do List is to enlist help if needed.  What can you delegate?  What can you get someone to help you do?  For example, the other day, I had cards that I wanted printed and laminated and then cut apart.  By myself it would have taken me the whole day to get it done, between copying the pages, waiting for the laminator to heat up, and then actually cutting them apart in between appointments, tours with our incoming 4th graders, phone calls to parents, and meetings. Instead, I asked a student to help me make the copies, laminated everything myself, and then brought the sheet of laminated goodies to the office where it was cut into more manageable pieces, then found a sub who was looking for a project to help me cut them out.  My time on the project was minimal, and it was a huge job, but in the end, it didn't seem like it.

Lastly, use a planner.  Planners will help turn your To Do list into a plan.  Once you begin keeping track of your year, you can also use it to really develop your school counseling program.  You'll be able to see the trends of when things are super busy or sort of slow.  You can use these trends to find time to go into classes or move things around, so you feel more consistent throughout the year.
This is what the inside of my planner for next year looks like.  This year's is packed full and I can't show a picture for privacy reasons.

If you would like a copy of my weekly planner, click here.  It's a freebie!

If you would like to see my matching perfect counselor planner, click here.

What does your To Do list look like?  How do you keep it organized?  Leave a comment below and let me know!

Friday, June 9, 2017

Playing Card Games To Learn Coping Skills

Kids love playing games.  Cards games are always a hit, and playing cards with students when in a counseling session can be really helpful.  First it gives kids a focus other than you looking at them.  They are concentrating instead on the cards and the game, and not where your eyes are.  Eye contact can be uncomfortable for kids, so any game can help break the ice.  Second, a deck of cards can really start the conversation going.  

I started using cards as a coping skills when kids came to my office in tears or a panic attack.  I used them as a distraction for what they were experiencing, and as we played, I would ask them questions about the events that led them to come down to my office.  The more I played, the more I tried to use the cards as a therapy tool.  Then I began adding questions to each card, asking students to answer the question on the cards as we played.  Then, I began making my own cards.  

Cards can be used with individuals and with groups.  When you add cards to groups, you also help students build social skills and practice patience and self-regulation.  I use these cards in my social skills groups and my resilience groups.  They are a perfect review after students talk about their stress triggers and learn various coping mechanisms.  Talking together and answering the questions really reinforces the learning concept and students are quick to offer suggestions to one another if someone doesn't have an answer.  Cards also help to build alliances between students in group.  As students discuss themselves, they become empathetic towards each other, but also realize that they are not alone with their fears and feelings.  

Answering questions like, "Name one coping skill you have used successfully," or "why is yelling at someone an unhealthy way of handling stress?" reinforce skills.  Be sure to add a variety of questions into your card games.  Techniques, what would you do if, true/false, and how would you feel if questions add a good variety.  

To see or purchase my Coping Skill Card Game, click here.  

Do you have a favorite technique for helping students learn coping skills, or do you have a great way to use playing cards in counseling?  Let me know.  Leave a comment below!

Tuesday, June 6, 2017

5 Ways To Use Timelines in Counseling

When I was in grad school a million years ago, we often used timelines when talking with clients.  When I began working as a school counselor, primarily with juniors and seniors and concentrating on the college admission process, I rarely pulled out the timeline.  Working again at a middle school, however, I find myself using timelines a lot, and for a variety of uses.

The timeline is a powerful tool.  It helps organize thoughts, and helps students put things in perspective.  It's a great tool for also reminding students that the past doesn't have to equal the future, and show how life continually moves forward.

Here are a few ways I use timelines.

1) To get an accurate time frame of events that occurred.  Many times, students will come in, tell me about their horrible day, and I feel lost in their story because they are jumping back and forth across the time spectrum.  Using a timeline, I can say, "Back it up to last night and show me on this timeline when things happened."

2) To understand family dynamics and changes.  This is incredibly helpful when working with students in family groups, or students who have moved around a lot.  It can be a connect-the dot for where they have lived or to understand the changes their families have gone through.   This is an important part of the divorce and separation groups I run.  The students really love this when talking about their family story.

3)  To show change does occur.   I like to have kids describe their past, plot where they are, and describe their hopes for the future.  This is great because it helps students understand that their past does not equal their future, and then we can start focusing in on what needs to change to change the future.  In the picture below, we use a little CBT to show how changing our thoughts can also change future behaviors.

4) To show growth.  Using timelines to measure anger, sadness, or frustration at a given point in time (now) and then again after a few minutes of using coping strategies, can show that working through problems can lead to improvements.

5) To create goals.  Each year I do a lesson called How Long Is A Lifetime.  We use timelines to project the life we want.  Students think about the things they value and want out of life then use the timeline to indicate where they want to set their goal.

I'm sure there are many other ways to use timelines.  If you have a way, I didn't mention, I'd love to hear about it.  Make sure to leave a comment below!

Tuesday, April 4, 2017

How To Help Students Transition To High School

Middle school is a time for young adolescents to learn to navigate from child to young adult.  Many boundaries are tested, and independence is acquired.  8th graders are the big guys on campus, but they are still those sweet, young, innocent, scared kids who began their middle school career just a few short years earlier.  The transition to high school, for many is a scary time.  They won't be the big fish any more and they are starting over in the feeding chain.

So, how can we best help our students make that transition?  What can we do to make sure they are well prepared for their new adventure?  Have a transition plan.

1.  Students need to know what to expect.  Go over the basics--important people to know, where to go if they have a question, what is the principal's name, what a high school schedule look like, what to do when they are having difficulty in a class.  I played Classroom Squares with classes to go over these important need to know tidbits.  

2.  Students should also know their graduation requirements.  What does it take to graduate high school?  What electives are available, and what classes are available to freshman.  We have our high school elective teachers in business, art, and technology visit our middle school and describe the offerings available to freshman.  In addition, they bring some current students who describe projects and assignments they did in the class.  It gives the 8th graders a real life example of what to expect and what they will be doing if they choose a particular course.

3.  Make a plan.  Students need to look into the future and determine what they would like it to look like.  It's important to talk about values.  What is important to them?  Values are important as they determine a career, but it is also important as they plan their high school program.  Values include:  Do I need a study hall?  How rigorous a course should they take?  How many extracurricular activities should they try?  I spent three days with the 8th graders talking about values and goals a few months ago.  Having meetings with the students to make a 4 year plan is important too.  I always tell student that they can't just plan one year, they need to look at all four.  

4.  Visit the high school.  Nothing settles nerves more than getting a test drive of the new surroundings.  Our students will visit in June during Regents week.  It's not as crowded as students only attend high school if they have a Regents exam for a specific class, so there will be days that our students can visit without disrupting the regular day.  High school students also make excellent tour guides and they are always happy to share what they have learned along the way.

5.  Allow students to ask questions.  The more questions they ask, the more they learn.  No question is too small, or little importance.

6.  Spread the discussion about the transition to high school over a period of time.  The more you talk about it, the more familiar it will become.  

What ever you do to get students ready, take your time, be patient, and find multiple opportunities to discuss it.  The more prepared they are, the more they will feel prepared to make the change.

Let me know how you help students to transition.  What's your success story?

Monday, March 27, 2017

Guest Post~ The Size of the Problem lesson

My friend, Kylie, wrote a blog post for me about the Size of the Problem.  Aimed to help middle school boys with coping skills and understanding the cause and effect relationship of behaviors and reactions, this is a really helpful lesson for ALL students.  I hope you check out her TpT store too, The Creative Social Worker.

Hi!  My name is Kylie (The Creative Social Worker), and I am currently a school social worker for early childhood - 8th grade.  I have also worked in a treatment center for addiction, clients 18+, and work at a craft store on the side.  Needless to say, working with such a wide range of students, and being the only social worker in the district, definitely keeps me on my toes!  Those two things are also what is driving this post today:
Struggling to keep the interest of some of my 7th and 8th grade boys, I knew I had to pull out some creativity and make something that not only would benefit them but also increase their engagement.  The first activity I created was directed to address the topic of “Size of the Problem.”  But what it turned out to be, was so much more than that.
For this activity, I made a symbolic mountain for a visual, and placed 4 open spaces to sort cards: problem sizes of no problem, little problem, medium problem, and big problem.  I also made a key card, that includes the different sizes of the problem and reaction for reference.  I ended up making 48 prompt cards, which include realistic situations (some we have discussed already), for them to relate too.  

The “more” part?  My students are not only using their identification skills of the different categories, but because of the prompts, they are using perspective-taking skills, using empathy, and there are opportunities to discuss coping skills!  And, in addition to the sorting activity, I also created an add-on for this activity inspired by “20 Questions.”  To further challenge students with a great understanding of the different sizes of problems/reactions, one player must first pick a card.  Then, the rest of the group can ask 10 questions to try to figure out the size of the problem.  For example, is it something you can’t solve without an adult?  Or, would you be crying?  Students are also given a tip card with examples of types of questions they can ask.
The next activity I created was kind of a spin off of some of my most favorite lessons on Teachers Pay Teachers.  I don’t think it comes as any surprise that turning some of the most popular board games like JengaⓇ into a counseling game is usually a winner for upper elementary and middle school.  Or, for elementary school, turning Bingo into a counseling game.  I’ve used some of the question sheets on Teachers Pay Teachers, some of the specialized Bingo games, and have made a few myself.  But I wanted to be able to use these games more often and longer, and in a really easy way.  So, I made question sheets with Bingo in mind.  I have started out with 3 topics: icebreakers, self-esteem, and size of the problem (again for my 7th & 8th grade boys!).  My favorite part?  Each question sheet contains a whopping 75 different questions!  With that much information, it makes these sheets pretty much universal with every game, and personally the least amount of prep for me (considering traveling between two buildings).  I not only reuse JengaⓇ and switch out the topics, but reuse Bingo cards, as each question goes with a number.
Both of these activities have turned out to be a huge success for me and my students.  I hope you enjoyed reading about them!  If you would like to read more, or check out similar resources, you can find them here:
Size of the Problem Sort & Discuss +20 Questions Inspired Add-OnGrowing Counseling Game Prompts Bundle 6th-8th
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If you have a great lesson that you would like to share, let me know!  We are at our best when we work and learn from others!

Thursday, February 2, 2017

Get Ready For National School Counseling Week

National School Counseling Week is a time to advocate and educate to parents, faculty, administration and stakeholders what our school counseling program is all about.  While a lot of people view it as a day of recognition for counselors, that is not the purpose of this week.  It truly is about getting the word out about what we do to help students.  

National School Counseling Week 2017, "School Counseling: Helping Students Realize Their Potential," will be celebrated from Feb. 6-10, 2017.  You can get a lot of information from the ASCA website about how to celebrate in your school.  

I love participating in all the photo challenges on Twitter.  

Because NCSW is such an important week, I've rounded up some free resources to help you let your school know what you do.

I put together a poster of the 7 Ups of Counseling and daily messages for mailboxes.   You can get them in my TpT store.

I also have an editable crossword puzzle that's perfect to leave in the lunchroom for students.  

Counselor Keri, also has some great kits to help celebrate.

Find it here

Find the Valentine's theme one here.

And, the Hollywood theme here

Keri also has a Guidance lesson for elementary school.

Brandy Thompson, The Counseling Teacher has these NCSW Bookmarks, which are perfect for the kids.  

Find the bookmarks here.

School Counseling Resource Junky has a neat bulletin board display to let everyone know your superpowers.

get your Super Powers posters here.

There's also these gift tags from Traci Brown.

I hope these help as you celebrate NCSW.  Be sure to join in the Twitter photo challenge and share your pictures and celebrations from your school with me.  

Monday, January 23, 2017

Goal Setting For Success

Day 2 with the 8th graders and I wanted to expand on the values lesson from yesterday (click here for the values lesson).  We talked about the quote, "Values are like fingerprints.  Nobody's are the same, but you leave them all over everything you do."  But first, we talked about goals.  This class had already talked about SMART goals in health class last year, but it was definitely time for a refresher.  I asked them to think about 3 life goals that they had for themselves.  I gave them each 3 colored copies of worksheets I had made, and then I gave them directions on how to fold them into a flipbook.  When they were done, they each had their own booklet.  

Inside we talk about the importance of setting goals.  I asked them to name 3 life goals they had for themselves.

Then we reviewed their goals.

Next we talked about the importance of having a positive mindset and the affect it had on your goals.

Then I introduced a few business terms: SWOT or Strengths, Weaknesses, Opportunities and Threats.  I explained how our SWOT could make or break our success.  In the business world, not recognizing your weaknesses and threats could overpower the opportunities and strengths, but if we know ahead of time what these hurdles are, we can make plans (using our positive mindsets) to prepare to get past them.  They become speed bumps instead of barricades.

Lastly, I asked students to write their own SMART goals.

At the end of class, students shared some of their SMART goals, and once again tied it in to high school transition.   I have one more day in class with the 8th graders and tomorrow we will talk about "How long is your lifetime."

I'd love to know how you talk about goal setting with your middle schoolers.  What lessons do you do?  Leave a comment below, or email me if you would like to be a guest blogger and share your lesson with others!